I’m a trans girl dating an other woman in a polyamorous relationship
In identical vein, it’s your partner’s responsibility to be clear with you to have that level of intimacy with you with you about whether her terms are the same: does she want to spend that much time? Or would she choose a relationship which involves periodic, although not constant, regular closeness? (Some might explain this as being a “secondary” relationship.) It is okay on her to desire less closeness, but then she owes it to you to be honest about that if that’s the case.
If as it happens your relationship terms don’t match to your partner’s, or if perhaps she claims which they do, but her behavior still does not alter, it is likely time for you to earn some hard decisions, Lonely woman. Can you really cut back your desires and objectives and accept a less-intimate relationship by having a heart that is full? Or would that only make you disappointed, resentful and wanting more?